Help for Parents with kids abusing drugs or alcohol.

Can you explain "addict logic" to me?

Addict logic is different from normal logic.
Addict logic rationalizes any action that continues the use or abuse of drugs or alcohol.
Addict logic is a selfish logic. It is only interested in the use or abuse of drugs.
Trying to be rational with an addict who has not hit bottom is a waste of time because he/she will simply use addict logic in dealing with you.

I think my addict child is lying to me. Why would he/she do that?

As one addict told her parents, "You cannot be a successful addict unless you are a great liar." We non-addicts do not understand the drive to use and the willingness to lie, steal, cheat or beg to get drugs or alcohol. Remember, for the addict nothing is too great a risk in order to get high once again.
Addiction seems to be triggered in a euphoric experience early in use that is planted deep in the memory.

I think my addict child is stealing from me. What do I do?

Do not be surprised that your child might be stealing. Remember that once drugs are used, they become the highest priority in life. Drugs are the antithesis of truth; so it is naïve to assume the child would not steal in order to get drugs.

We know of parents who have hidden things of value so they will not be stolen. The parents' sentimental attachment will not preclude the addict from taking something of value if the body is craving drugs.

Watch as closely as you can the "cash flow" of your kids. Also, many addicts are minor suppliers (not pushers) to friends. They have a stash somewhere.

What are some behaviors associated with drugs?

Changes--in moods, spending habits, loss of possessions, a general sloppiness in hygiene, clothing and bedroom.
Mentally--fuzzy recall of yesterday, loss of focus, alibis and "tall tales."
Socially--unusual risk taking, change in friends, being alone or out of sight.
These behaviors can be some of the potential signs of drug/alcohol use. But it is important to remember that "one can't be a successful addict without being a great liar," so these behaviors are not always present.